What a wonderful afternoon with girlfriends, some coffee and a warm
fire. The snow is falling outside, and we are sitting inside, enjoying
an (almost-) kids-free zone. Hubby had to stay home, because I needed
someone to plow the driveway and to start my fire, without smoking up
the house...Last time I started my very own first fire, the kids and I
had to leave because smoke went anywhere but through the chimney...so
this time, with company coming over I needed some assistance;0)
I
am very thankful that the girls actually made it, since it was the
first bigger snowstorm this and last year, the roads were actually
slippery and many had canceled. But the fearless made it up here and
I am very grateful for it, because I enjoyed a very fun-filled
afternoon. And special thanks to hubby for taking care of the kids, the
fire and the driveway;0)
Now, what has any of that to
do with the title: unschooling? Very easily explained. The girls and I
had a talk about schools, choices and ways of educating our children.
Our first-borns are going to join kindergarten or first grade in the
fall or next year and we are all facing the rounds of open houses in the
public school system. For some (in my mind not-so-)odd reason, I have
been exploring the idea of Unschooling. Unschooling is a form of
homeschooling, the most unorganized form of homeschooling, the so called
"child-led-learning" way.
Well, I am facing a dilemma, because unfortunately my husband and I are not on the same page when it comes to
topic of schooling. Now I am trying to figure out for myself, why I feel so
strongly about homeschooling and if it is indeed something I should pursue or not, at least theoretically for now. I do
not have any homeschooling friends and if i talk to my "regular
schooling friends" it's hard to discuss the topic, because they haven't really much explored the idea.
I
want to get more in
touch with the topic and explore it with my children. Since Princess L
is due
to start Kindergarten in September, I would love to decide what to
do, very soon. We are scheduled for an open house here at the Elementary
School in a couple of weeks. At the same time I want to connect with
people, who do home school. I also would love to discuss the topic more
in detail with hubby, but he is not so interested in joining the
conversation, because he is aware that it will be a difficult subject
for us, since our positions couldn't be more opposite.
Why, why homeschool? Why not send my children to school and enjoy the "time-off"? Why
do I need to worry so much about all of this? I just wonder, about how
much we give away, when we send our still so very young, very
vulnerable, impressible and gullible, 5 - or 6 year-olds off to school?
They will be dropped of in front of the building, they will be taught by
people we don't really know, they spent many hours with children of
their own age, without a break, time for a breather, by themselves, to
reflect, to understand all the emotions and new experiences, to process
the new images, rules, words. We pick them up, we expect exited
children, we expect grown, educated, well behaved children, who learn
and adjust, who fit in. Is that what I want for my children, to fit in?
Is it essential to fit in? Could they survive, without fitting in
completely? Could they actually be happier, if they didn't fit in? Or
would I destroy their chances of a happy life, if I rather homeschooled
them?
I am very torn, because I feel so strongly about it all. What is
it all about? I am not able to answer that questions right now. I need
to keep exploring and maybe praying for an answer? Yes people, I pray.
And I will have to do so, in my little corner. Maybe that will show me
where to go from here.
Anyway, again, thank you ladies for visiting and spending the
afternoon. Thank you for inspiring conversations and lots of laughter. I
need much more of that very soon;0) Good night.
Namaste,
Romy
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Saturday, January 21, 2012
Thursday, January 12, 2012
Happy New Year
Yeeaah, I am back;0) The new year has started and we all have
had to already fill out some forms with the new year number 2012...I
hope you guys remembered;0) For us here in our new home things are VERY
SLOWLY getting settled. Two rooms still have many boxes with a couple of
them still even unopened. Some new furniture is needed here and there,
which I believe will be the case for a while. Money obviously is not as
easy to come by when you just bought a house.
Hubby's and my tastes also could not be more different from each other, so can you imagine us all 4 heading to the store, J Junior taking of as soon as his feet hit the ground and us trying to maneuver through huge halls filled with all kind of furniture, decor, customers and very eager shopping assistants. Now try to discuss styles, possibilities and preferences...Ha! Well, we need to do a lot more prep work ahead of time...We do have a lot of that and over the next years we will make it nice here, I am sure.Maybe I will even be able to show of some decorating project throughout the process. So far I haven't touched a thing...it's been boxes, laundry, dinners, playgroups and doctor visits.
The holidays went very well, we were actually in Colorado this year. It was beautiful and we DID have a white Christmas. Which we wouldn't have had here on the East Coast. It was so wonderful to be with family and our hosts, my sister- and brother-in-law really put such a great effort into trying to make us feel well. I am very grateful for such a special time. We had a blast and I hope to repeat that soon again.
Everything else though has been very slow for me, the move, Thanksgiving, princess L's birthday and our trip were all such a great adventure and exiting to go through, but it also took a toll on us. We are exhausted and in great need of a break. On top of things I seem to be having a greater difficulty then I ever had with a move. I had mentioned it in an earlier post, but at the time, I believed those issues were merely related to the fact that I was packing and taking care of the kids and the household at the same time. Now that we are here, I am realizing that there is actually more to it. What it is, I am still not hundred percent sure of, probably a combination of issues.
On one hand I am missing the things we got used to over the past years, stores, parks, people, walks, although I never liked them as much, since it wasn't very pretty where we lived. I also started to wonder, if this is what I want my children to grow up in...It is a very different life from what I lived back in Germany. We walked everywhere, we took buses, trains, we biked. Here we don't leave the house without a car. There is just nothing else to walk to. So you may wonder, didn't I know that before we bought the house...of course I did. But throughout my life I seem to think through possible problems very differently until I actually live through them. As my friend has reminded me, I just have to give it some time. There are worse things then feeling homesick. I make an effort at night, when I go to bed, to say thank you for the good things in my life. We are lucky, we have a beautiful family, lovely healthy children and that's all that counts.
I am sure you guys will hear more of my whining, so I will relieve you for today;0) Have a wonderful weekend. Much love and sleep to all of you. Namaste, Romy
Hubby's and my tastes also could not be more different from each other, so can you imagine us all 4 heading to the store, J Junior taking of as soon as his feet hit the ground and us trying to maneuver through huge halls filled with all kind of furniture, decor, customers and very eager shopping assistants. Now try to discuss styles, possibilities and preferences...Ha! Well, we need to do a lot more prep work ahead of time...We do have a lot of that and over the next years we will make it nice here, I am sure.Maybe I will even be able to show of some decorating project throughout the process. So far I haven't touched a thing...it's been boxes, laundry, dinners, playgroups and doctor visits.
The holidays went very well, we were actually in Colorado this year. It was beautiful and we DID have a white Christmas. Which we wouldn't have had here on the East Coast. It was so wonderful to be with family and our hosts, my sister- and brother-in-law really put such a great effort into trying to make us feel well. I am very grateful for such a special time. We had a blast and I hope to repeat that soon again.
Everything else though has been very slow for me, the move, Thanksgiving, princess L's birthday and our trip were all such a great adventure and exiting to go through, but it also took a toll on us. We are exhausted and in great need of a break. On top of things I seem to be having a greater difficulty then I ever had with a move. I had mentioned it in an earlier post, but at the time, I believed those issues were merely related to the fact that I was packing and taking care of the kids and the household at the same time. Now that we are here, I am realizing that there is actually more to it. What it is, I am still not hundred percent sure of, probably a combination of issues.
On one hand I am missing the things we got used to over the past years, stores, parks, people, walks, although I never liked them as much, since it wasn't very pretty where we lived. I also started to wonder, if this is what I want my children to grow up in...It is a very different life from what I lived back in Germany. We walked everywhere, we took buses, trains, we biked. Here we don't leave the house without a car. There is just nothing else to walk to. So you may wonder, didn't I know that before we bought the house...of course I did. But throughout my life I seem to think through possible problems very differently until I actually live through them. As my friend has reminded me, I just have to give it some time. There are worse things then feeling homesick. I make an effort at night, when I go to bed, to say thank you for the good things in my life. We are lucky, we have a beautiful family, lovely healthy children and that's all that counts.
I am sure you guys will hear more of my whining, so I will relieve you for today;0) Have a wonderful weekend. Much love and sleep to all of you. Namaste, Romy
Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Packing
Two more weeks. We have officially started packing our lives into boxes. It's is amazing how things can get us, make us, how they can move us and hold us.
We are all quite emotional here at the moment, to the point that hubby and I decided to just honker down and get it done. Just move and keep going. No looking to the left or right, we just have to get it done.
Memories and feelings are dug up, unwrapped, packed back into different boxes or hopefully thrown out and let go.
It's an emotional process and it's not an easy one I must admit. I counted and I realized that in my 35 years I have moved 26 times. This will be move number 27. I moved between cities, countries, continents and different political systems. But for some reason this one seems to be the hardest. It's only 35 minutes away within the same state...
Namaste,
Romy
We are all quite emotional here at the moment, to the point that hubby and I decided to just honker down and get it done. Just move and keep going. No looking to the left or right, we just have to get it done.
Memories and feelings are dug up, unwrapped, packed back into different boxes or hopefully thrown out and let go.
It's an emotional process and it's not an easy one I must admit. I counted and I realized that in my 35 years I have moved 26 times. This will be move number 27. I moved between cities, countries, continents and different political systems. But for some reason this one seems to be the hardest. It's only 35 minutes away within the same state...
Namaste,
Romy
little things and pleasures
Just wanted to share some fun things we sometimes come up with here;0) Princess L loves her dolls, there is lots of pretend play and I adore the things she just makes up herself. Currently she celebrates one baby doll or teddy birthday after another and I secretly watch her set it all up by herself, talking to herself and the dolls, discussing arrangements and preparing the event...big smiles.
Check out that bibs on every party guest;0)
And of course they need to be fed...The birthday bear gets a cupcake with candle...
And isn't that the most delicately decorated Panda Lady? My hearts just melts when I see something like that.
The other day Princes L asked me for a wrap-baby-doll- carrier, just like the Moby. I am sure most of you are familiar with what I am talking about. If not, have a look here: Moby Wrap
I used it for Baby J last year and liked it for the most part. It's a little much fabric to deal with at times, when you are out and about, but I do like how comfortable and snugly it is and that the babies weight was evenly distributed all over my back.
Back to my request. Now I would love to tell you, that I went into my craft and sewing room/corner/area and just made a carrier for her...Well it would have taken too long and an almost 5-year old doesn't have the patience to wait for mommy to figure out how to turn on the sewing machine, let alone coming up with a pattern, a fabric and a final product. So I did this:
I used a scarf and wrapped it around moby style and it worked. I was actually impressed myself about how simple it was and how it just did it. We put it to the test and everything was snugly tight and little Princess L was able to go about her chores with baby in tow...until she started running and jumping around on the couch. She was a little surprised that baby became so lose and complaint. Well, what do you say?;0)
The toilet paper on the floor came from J Junior taking about a roll... I will tell you more about that a little later;0) Have a wonderful day.
Namaste,
Romy
Check out that bibs on every party guest;0)
And of course they need to be fed...The birthday bear gets a cupcake with candle...
The other day Princes L asked me for a wrap-baby-doll- carrier, just like the Moby. I am sure most of you are familiar with what I am talking about. If not, have a look here: Moby Wrap
I used it for Baby J last year and liked it for the most part. It's a little much fabric to deal with at times, when you are out and about, but I do like how comfortable and snugly it is and that the babies weight was evenly distributed all over my back.
Back to my request. Now I would love to tell you, that I went into my craft and sewing room/corner/area and just made a carrier for her...Well it would have taken too long and an almost 5-year old doesn't have the patience to wait for mommy to figure out how to turn on the sewing machine, let alone coming up with a pattern, a fabric and a final product. So I did this:
The toilet paper on the floor came from J Junior taking about a roll... I will tell you more about that a little later;0) Have a wonderful day.
Namaste,
Romy
Thursday, November 3, 2011
Halloween 2011
I can't believe it is already over. One of my and my daughter's most favorite holiday. We had a blast, we decorated, we carved and dreamed of witches, ghosts, monsters and all the spooky things you can imagine. We visited Salem, had apple cider and doughnuts. We had some friends over on Halloween, we played games and went Trick-or Treating. We were very lucky, because some towns here on the East Costs were without power due to the snowstorm that brought down a lot of trees. Next year we will celebrate Halloween in our new house.
So this year my husband and I were a little teary-eyed because we have spent 6 years in our apartment. It's very small and definitely not big enough to invite all our friends at the same time. But we did have both our children here and we are quite attached to the neighborhood. Also being close to Boston is just one major plus we will miss very much. But you have to make compromises, we had looked for more then a year. And the prices here are just unbelievable. Crazy what people have to pay to be able to live a decent life.
Anyway, before I go any further (the moving boxes are waiting to be filled with our life), here are some pictures from our Halloween decorations.
I am most proud of my witch. I love her boots;0) And yes I drew everything by hand. Nothing copied.
Princess L also wanted to draw bats and ghosts;0) Aren't they beautiful? They even have fangs. She was sad that they weren't "as nice as mine" and I had to convince her that she did an amazing job. And she did!
And of course we had to face paint.
And the other side....
And I go painted too. Lovely;0)
The Tunnel of Doom was Princes L's idea. She saw it in Fancy Nancy's Halloween book. It leads to the kitchen;0)
Isn't he striking?;0)
So this year my husband and I were a little teary-eyed because we have spent 6 years in our apartment. It's very small and definitely not big enough to invite all our friends at the same time. But we did have both our children here and we are quite attached to the neighborhood. Also being close to Boston is just one major plus we will miss very much. But you have to make compromises, we had looked for more then a year. And the prices here are just unbelievable. Crazy what people have to pay to be able to live a decent life.
Anyway, before I go any further (the moving boxes are waiting to be filled with our life), here are some pictures from our Halloween decorations.
I am most proud of my witch. I love her boots;0) And yes I drew everything by hand. Nothing copied.
Princess L also wanted to draw bats and ghosts;0) Aren't they beautiful? They even have fangs. She was sad that they weren't "as nice as mine" and I had to convince her that she did an amazing job. And she did!
And I go painted too. Lovely;0)
Our costumes were fairly easy this year. My daughter insisted that she wanted to be an angel and we bought a costume,which looked more like a fairy, because it lid up and that's what sold it to her. I made some wings for baby J and drew a picture of Cupit on a white T-shirt. I went as a cloud (which unfortunately i do not have a picture of) and my husband was lightning...
Namaste, Romy
Thursday, September 15, 2011
New Beginnings many times a year
Wow, yes, now I am seeing more clearly what I was always worried about when creating this "blog adventure". If I start anything, a blog, a hobby, a new habit, for some reason it is hard for me to stay with it for more then a few weeks. During last month many things came in between me and my blog, our vacation, baby J's first birthday (oh how cute;0)), Irene, lack of sleep, lack of time...and then what... well if you are a parent you know, I could always find a reason not to come back and write and create...
I didn't create as much as I hoped I would through the summer, better say I "created" very little. I made one skirt, my first ever real sewing project(!). It took a lot out of me since I am basically an 8-year old learning all the little important things about sewing. The tutorial I found on this amazing blog: blog for skirt tutorial
My other sewing ideas haven't been developed any further. I am hoping the cold weather will help;0)
One of my other favorite blogs is this one. Just the name alone makes me want to visit it every day. Here I also found the idea for those amazing tissue paper pompoms, which I made for baby J's first birthday party.
Most of the other stuff is way to advanced for me right now. I am just struck by how much all those amazing women do all day and what they get accomplished. I basically get stuck with the laundry and dishes and fall into bed...well most nights we do watch an episode of Voyager though...PROBLEM, because this is the only time for me to do different things, to learn how to sew for example, or to write or to do yoga ....
Anyways, I named this post New Beginnings, because I am hoping for more energy towards my goals, fun ideas and great projects. Over the last two weeks I have started to jog again, which can only mean things are getting more "me-focused". I also started a more structured day with princes L (fall is a great motivator, during the summer things have been slow), we started to have a schedule, "school time", themed projects and talks. Unfortunately school is starting tomorrow so we will not see her on three mornings a week, which will be hard and sad for me and baby J. But on the other hand, we will have time for a baby-dip class at the local Y, as well as some "me-time" in the event of a nap;0)
My other sewing ideas haven't been developed any further. I am hoping the cold weather will help;0)
One of my other favorite blogs is this one. Just the name alone makes me want to visit it every day. Here I also found the idea for those amazing tissue paper pompoms, which I made for baby J's first birthday party.
Most of the other stuff is way to advanced for me right now. I am just struck by how much all those amazing women do all day and what they get accomplished. I basically get stuck with the laundry and dishes and fall into bed...well most nights we do watch an episode of Voyager though...PROBLEM, because this is the only time for me to do different things, to learn how to sew for example, or to write or to do yoga ....
Anyways, I named this post New Beginnings, because I am hoping for more energy towards my goals, fun ideas and great projects. Over the last two weeks I have started to jog again, which can only mean things are getting more "me-focused". I also started a more structured day with princes L (fall is a great motivator, during the summer things have been slow), we started to have a schedule, "school time", themed projects and talks. Unfortunately school is starting tomorrow so we will not see her on three mornings a week, which will be hard and sad for me and baby J. But on the other hand, we will have time for a baby-dip class at the local Y, as well as some "me-time" in the event of a nap;0)
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